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Midlife Crisis

July 31, 2012 by  

Trying to reinvent ourselves

Let’s quit our jobs, sell the house and move to the country!

Right in the middle of life, you get hit by a midlife crisis. At least some do; not as many as you’d think. But many people get hit by divorce, burnout, unemployment and economic downturns.

Here’s what is included in this lesson:

  • Delayed gratification
  • Changing careers
  • Divorce
  • Burnout
  • Self concept
  • Midlife crisis

Read chapter 16 of Berk’s Development Thru The Lifespan

Here are the resources you need:

CLUSTER

SLIDES

TERMS

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  • abstract thinking
  • active distraction
  • Baby Boomers
  • basic needs of love
  • Big Five personality traits = Costa & McCrae; based on factor analysis, proposes 5 dimensions: (OCEAN) openness, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness and neuroticism
  • burnout
  • burnout prevention
  • compliance
  • compulsion to prove self phase
  • congruence
  • contempt (disgust)
  • create shared meaning principle
  • criticism of other’s personality
  • cynicism-involvement dimension
  • defensiveness
  • delayed gratification
  • denial of emerging problems phase
  • depersonalization phase
  • depression phase
  • displacement of conflicts phase
  • distract from reward
  • divorce
  • enhance your love maps principle
  • exhaustion-energy dimension
  • feminization of poverty
  • generativity vs stagnation = Erikson’s 7th stage of development; virtue is care
  • glass ceiling
  • humanism
  • inefficacy-efficacy dimension
  • inner emptiness phase
  • job outlook
  • judgment
  • kinkeeper = usually mother, act as hub of family info, care and interaction
  • let partner influence you principle
  • life changes
  • marital stability
  • Marshmallow Study
  • Maslach Burnout Inventory
  • midlife crisis
  • midlife transition
  • more fondness & admiration principle
  • neglecting personal needs phase
  • obvious behavioral changes phase
  • overcome gridlock principle
  • parental imperative theory = Gutmann’s theory, parents push gender roles when children are young but later reclaim a broad perspective
  • phases of burnout
  • phenomenological field
  • physically collapse phase
  • positive regard by others
  • positive regard by self
  • possible selves = part of self-concept; what you might become
  • predictors of divorce
  • principles of marital stability
  • reaction
  • real self
  • reassess achievements
  • reconnections
  • revision of values phase
  • reward-delaying strategies
  • sandwich generation
  • self
  • self as perceived
  • self control
  • self-concept
  • self-esteem
  • self-observation
  • self-regulation
  • self-response
  • self-talk
  • skipped-generation family
  • solve the solvable problems principle
  • stonewalling (withdrawal)
  • strategic thinking
  • subconscious
  • turn toward each other principle
  • unemployed
  • withdrawal phase
  • work environment
  • working harder phase

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NOTES

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  • Changing Jobs
    • Age 18-42
      • Most change jobs 10+x
    • Over life
      • 7 careers?
    • Definition problem
  • Why change careers
    • Money
      • Job outlook (market dwindling)
      • Economy downturn
      • Want more money
      • Better offer
    • Work environment
      • Co-workers & Boss
      • Boring-challenge
      • Stress
      • Glass Ceiling
        • Socio-Political term
        • Less women & minorities at highest levels of corporations
        • Glass = unbendable
    • Life Changes
      • Have a baby
      • Sandwiched generation
        • Care for your parents
        • Care for your kids
      • Skipped-generation family
        • Grandparents raising children
    • Unemployed
      • Older you are, longer not hired
      • Baby Boomers
        • 40% of work force
        • Born 1946-1964
  • Burnout
    • Psychological issue?
      • Not in DSM
    • 40% of workforce?
    • Symptoms
      • Less interested in work
      • Less pleasure in accomplishments
      • Exhaustion
    • Maslach Burnout Inventory
      • 3 dimensions
      • Exhaustion (energy)
      • Cynicism (involvement)
      • Inefficacy (efficacy)
    • 12 phases, not necessarily sequential (Freudenberger & North)
      • 1. Compulsion to Prove Self
      • 2. Working Harder
      • 3. Neglecting Personal Needs
      • 4. Displacement of Conflicts
      • 5. Revision of Values
      • 6. Denial of Emerging Problems
      • 7. Withdrawal
      • 8. Obvious Behavioral Changes
      • 9. Depersonalization
      • 10. Inner Emptiness
      • 11. Depression
      • 12. Physically collapse
    • Burnout Prevention
      • Organization
        • Healthier work life
        • Workload, control, reward,
        • Community, fairness & values
      • Individual coping
        • Resting
        • Temporary less work hours
  • Midlife Crisis
    • Midlife transition
      • Reassessment related to age
      • Life halfway over or more
    • Triggered by:
      • Andropause or Menopause
      • Death of parent
      • Unemployment
      • Underemployment
      • Never wanted to be a lawyer
      • Reassess achievements
      • Reconsider dreams
      • Want to make significant changes
    • Midlife Crisis occurs in about 10%
      • Many people reassess
      • Not based on age
  • Divorce
    • John Gottman
      • Marital Stability
      • Reconnections
        • How fight
        • How make up
      • Happy couples
        • have unresolved conflicts
        • 69% have “very same” ones 10 years later
      • 4 predictors of divorce; 4 major behaviors not to do
        • Criticism of other’s personality
        • Stonewalling (withdrawal)
        • Contempt (disgust)
        • Defensiveness
      • 7 Principles of what to do
        • 1. Enhance Your Love Maps
          • store info about partner (dreams, hopes)
        • 2. More Fondness & Admiration
          • Respect & appreciate diff.
        • 3. Turn Toward Each Other
        • 4. Let Partner Influence You
        • 5. Solve The Solvable Problems
        • 6. Overcome Gridlock
        • 7. Create Shared Meaning
  • CARL ROGERS (1902 – 1987)
    • Self
      • Self gradually emerges
      • From interaction w/ sig. others
    • Self-concept
      • Part of phenomenological field
        • gradually become differentiated
      • Object of perception
      • Real self vs self as perceived
        • Experiences are symbolized, ignored, dined or distorted
        • Become subconscious
      • Shouldn’t threaten integrity of child’s self-concept
        • Accept child’s feeling
    • Congruence
      • Symbolized experiences reflect all actual experiences
      • When congruent, person is free from inner tension
    • 2 basic needs
      • positive regard by others
      • positive regard by self
    • Self-regulation
      • 3 steps to control own behavior
      • 1. Self-observation
        • Track own behavior
      • 2. Judgment
        • Compare what see w/ standard
        • Rules of etiquette
        • Personal rules
      • 3. Self-response
        • Reward self
        • Punish self
    • For some
      • Self-regulation is self-concept
      • Self-regulation is self-esteem
  • Humanism
    • Reaction to behaviorism
      • Which was a reaction to Freud
    • Focus on:
      • Growth & fulfillment of individual
        • genuineness
        • acceptance
        • empathy
  • Self Control
    • Compliance = do what told
    • Respect
  • Walter Mischel
    • Delayed Gratification
    • Marshmallow Study
      • 1 small reward now or 2 small rewards if wait 15 min.
      • Little kids can’t wait
        • Can wait longer as get older
        • Can wait longer for preferred items
      • 4 yr olds (600 children)
        • Few ate immediately
        • Most delayed 3-5 min, then age
        • 1/3 delayed 15 min & got 2nd marshmallow
      • By 5
        • Use active distraction
        • Use self-talk (tell self rule)
      • By 12
        • Use abstract thinking
        • Distract from reward
    • Elderly
      • Less self-regulation
      • Less impulse control
      • Decline in reward-delaying strategies
    • Self control or strategic thinking

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QUIZ

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  • 1. For Gottman which is a predictor of divorce:
    • a.           delayed gratification
    • b.           self-observation
    • c.           stonewalling
    • d.           efficacy
  • 2. Humanism a reaction to:
    • a.           cognitive therapy
    • b.           psychoanalysis
    • c.           existentialism
    • d.           behaviorism
  • 3. For some theorists self-esteem is the same as:
    • a.           self regulation
    • b.           self criticism
    • c.           self analysis
    • d.           all of the above
  • 4. What percentage of people have a mid-life crisis:
    • a.           10%
    • b.           20%
    • c.           45%
    • d.           67%
  • 5. Which studied delayed gratification:
    • a.           Maslach Burnout Inventory
    • b.           Boston Children’s Program
    • c.           marshmallow study
    • d.           rouge test

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DISCUSSION ITEM

  • Is divorce good or bad?

 

 

 

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